With these mind-blowing, orgasm-inducing techniques, she’ll never need to fake it again.
Listen up, gentlemen. We know you want to please your lady (or, if you’re single, the ladies) in the bedroom and they sure as hell want you to do it, too.
But here’s the truth: While most guys think they’re blowing her mind, more often than not, they’re missing the mark.
“Women know that most guys want them to reach O-land, and they don’t want to disappoint,” says Dorian Solot, a sex educator and co-author of I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide. “So all too often, women fake orgasms, or just let their partner assume they had one.”
But don’t settle for disappointing. Stick to these positions. Believe us: Both you and she will know that they work.
If your lady doesn’t prefer deep penetration, Andelloux suggests spooning. It’s also good “if you’re into lazy morning Sunday s3x playtime. It concentrates on stimulation of the front portion of the vagina or rectum, which is where the most nerves are located in the genitals.” Andelloux explains that spooning is pleasurable because it creates a tighter fit in the vagina and rectum, so if a woman is looking for more stimulation from her partner’s fingers or penis… spoon away.
According to Marshall Miller, a sex educator and co-author of I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide, this is another great position for clitoral stimulation. “Both partners are lying down. The woman is on her back and the guy is on his side.
She has her legs draped over his middle like a giant X,” he says. “Since your bodies aren’t squished against each other, either you or she can reach down to rub her clitoris, what most women need to reach the Big O.”
The Pillow Technique
Many sex experts agree that positions often become more pleasurable for a woman when a pillow or blanket is added to create a new angle of entry. In missionary, Levine says to “put a pillow under her tush to give a pelvic lift.
That can also help the man rub her g-spot with his penis.” Brame says it’s a tip that is often underutilized, and that you can even use furniture or yoga props. “Certain angles for some women won’t be comfortable,” he says. “Ask her what is working for her.”
Coital Alignment Technique
This position, created by psychotherapist Edward Eichel, is considered by many to be the “greatest sex position in the world.” Start in a normal missionary position with your full body weight on top of the woman, not resting on your elbows.
Move forward so that the base of your penis (your pubic bone) is making direct contact with her clitoris. Her legs should be around your thighs and you should be moving together in a rhythmic, rocking motion. “Some swear that this position allows for the closest physical connection and the best clitoral stimulation based on his positioning,” says Levine.
“When you’re on top of somebody or flat, you can’t always achieve full penetration,” says Brame which is why adjusting her leg positioning allows for deeper contact.
“You have to put her ankles up over your shoulders. It allows you to go as deep inside of her as possible and hit her G-spot.” The same deepness can also be achieved by her bending her knees or placing the soles of her feet on your chest.
This is a simple woman-on-top position where she’s (duh) kneeling on an arm chair or bed, straddling you. “It’s the best way for her to have control over penetration and when you both climax since she can slow down or speed up, grind and thrust at her own pace,” Brame says.
“Even women who don’t necessarily want to be in control in bed might enjoy if their partner grips her arms or hips and helps steer their movements.”
Edge of the Bed
Like the Ankles Up position, this encourages deep penetration since she’s lying on her back with her hips at the edge of the bed, and you’re entering from under her legs (which can rest on your torso or fall over the edge of the bed).
However, it can be difficult to get comfortable if the bed is too low and your groin isn’t in line with hers. “More likely, you’ll need to lower yourself or bend over her to penetrate fully, but it’s sexy on the edge of the bed because it feels like you couldn’t actually wait to get to the pillow,” Brame says. Plus, she gets a direct view of the action.
Cowgirl with a Twist
This takes Cowgirl up a notch. She kneels and straddles you, while you’re flat on your back. The twist is you bend your knees, supporting her butt. From here, she can push off your chest to help control as she slides up and down against your thighs.
Because there’s less stress on her legs and she’s in control, she can delay your climax and get the right rhythm. Plus, you can grab onto her hips or thighs and meet each thrust.
According to sex experts, women get the most pleasure out of basic missionary sex. “Interestingly, when we surveyed women, good old-fashioned missionary position was the overall favorite.
There’s nothing fancy about it, but women said they loved the closeness and the intimacy of having their partner’s weight on them,” says Solot.
But in order for missionary position to be most effective, make sure you’re entering her at the correct angle, says Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza. “By going in diagonally rather than straight in and out there’s more friction for clitorial stimulation, which is best, since that’s how most women achieve orgasm.”
In this position, the man is either lying down or in a sitting position, and the female straddles him backwards facing his feet instead of his face. It’s a key position that also allows easy access to the clitoris, says sexologist and sexuality educator Megan Andelloux.
“Because of the easier clitoral access, this position is the one that is most likely to facilitate an orgasm because direct clitoral stimulation is easy to engage in.”